Real Teens Speak Out

My Story

I have always been different. I knew I was not one of the popular guys, nor was I one of the sporty guys, or the geeky guys. I was me, and I was from a young age rejected by most of my peers. I would like to point out here that there is nothing wrong with being yourself. You are you. Don’t ever try and be someone else, or to just fit in with your peers. In the long run, strength is not who can call someone the worse names, or hit the weakest in the class. Strength is having the ability to overcome adversity, to get up when you are at your lowest, and to come back stronger.  I wish I had told my parents about the victimisation I encountered in primary school when I was in the care of that school. There are a variety of external agencies out there, such as local education authorities, charities and government. I want more victims of bullying to be aware of these agencies and to contact these.

However, here is the thing with any type of bullying. It’s not your problem: it’s the bullies. Bullies are weak themselves. By telling people, a cycle of abuse can be broken. If the adult does not listen, tell another, and demand that your voice is listened to.

Bullies rarely act alone, and the individuals who support bullying (or as I call them the “sheep”) are supporting the bullies behaviour. This is the schools responsibility, as a positive school should encourage students to disable rather than enable bullying. Victims of bullying need to tell adults, who in turn need to press for wider change within the schools ethos towards bullying. This starts with victims of bullying telling those who can help them about their experience, which includes instances of cyber bullying.

The school did not want to know about my bullying. Despite claiming they had an anti-bullying policy, the school was not interested in stopping bullying from occurring. Instead of actively promoting a healthy school environment, all the leadership in the school were concerned about was the reputation of the institution. That said, there were a number of teachers who provided support and help to me.

I should have told more people outside of the school environment at the time. Whilst schools state that you have a responsibility to them to act in a particular way, I would argue that the school has the greater responsibility to you, to protect you. Don’t let any school pretend that bullying does not happen, or even worse, that the bullying is somehow your fault. Demand more is done to. My experiences have made me believe in education, and how the sort of experiences which I went through should never be experienced by anyone. I firmly believe that education is valuable and no-one should disrupt your experience of it. Bullying is wrong, full stop. Tell someone, you are not the first person to be bullied.
What are you waiting for?

Why?

Every Year In School Was Hell.. I Actually Thought That Hell Was Better than the Abuse I Had to Suffer In School…From Kindergarden to Tweleth Grade I Was Critically Bullied to the Point Where I Hid In Bathrooms to Avoid Going to Every Class.. 85% of the Time that’s Where I Was. So I Was Really Never In Class, and My Grades Were Never Good.. I Remember Being In the Bathroom Shaking, Crying and Sick to My Stomach Because I Was soo Scared to leave the Bathroom and Go back to Class.. I Was Frequently Beaten, For Example..(I Was Kicked, Tripped, Punched, Stabbed, Pushed Into Things, and 50% of the Time Groups Would Gang Up On Me and Attacked Me In Such Brutal Ways.) They Would Call Me Ugly, Anorexic, Stupid, Freakish, Idiot, Baby, And Much Worse Things that I Dont Want to Say.

Your adopted

I was born in Siberia Russia and adopted to Maryland I didn’t know my birth parents. Im now in 8th grade. people say im a failed abortion or my dads condom broke. people are like shut up ben that’s why you don’t have a dad. theres people that say my real moms a pornstar and im a failed porno. one kid said this when I was already pissed and the thing was he was adopted too and he was making fun of me being adopted

It gets better!

Um, hi?
Yeah, this is something I hate talking about, but I want all you awesome misunderstood people to listen/read for a moment.
From the first year i started going to my school, i was different. I dressed differently, talked differently, even acted differently. This instantly affected me, and i still look back at it wondering why. I had no friends, no one to talk to, and no guidance throughout my entire school experience from when i was in kindergarten, to freshman year. I was constantly bullied for being different, and any sort of relationship i attempted was cast away into the metaphorical pit of despair.
And it gets worse. From the beginning of 7th grade to the end of 8th grade, i had to deal with not only the lead headed knuckle dragging jerks that the bullied are soooo used to.  I was a victim of bullying, but after I stood up for myself, and showed how i really was, even the bullies came out to see me for who i was.
I am now a freshman in highschool, with many friends, and a girl who stole my heart. And you know what? You all have hope too. I believe that with a little time, you will get your chance! :]

Outside looking in which is better then being in

so when i was little i was bullied and it hurt and i hated it. For all the people who read this and you are thinking this is never going to be better to get better it will trust maybe not fast and tell someone if you are being bullied really bad it help to talk and when thing get bad just think to yourself dont give up and one step at a time because if you try to take a big step thing wont work and love you and be you

my names abbey im 14 and heres my story… it all started when i finally got to middle school i was in 6th and there was a few girls that didnt like me that were in 8th it started out small like making fun of me when i walked by or saying rude and mean things to me when they see me in the hallway.. this had gone on everyday for my 6th grade year finally when they left i had a little bit ok but when i moved on to 7th grade the new kids who were in 7th when i was in 6th are now in 8th and again i have to put up with it even some kids in my grade told me stuff like,whore,nasty,ugly,slut, and other words i heard that everyday for my past 3 years in middle school till this day i still put up with it because the school says to my mom “i cant discuss other students punishment with you” but i dont want them to be punished i just want it all to stop,sometimes i dont want to get up for school because im so afraid of whats going to happen to school the next day. ive had to sit in a teachers classroom for lunch because i tryed to avoid the girls that didnt like me and picked on me this year because i felt like i wasnt wanted and i just feel so helpless,unworthy,unwanted,hurt,sad,lonely but school has never done anything about it i guess till another student hurts themselves something might be done.

My Story

My life is not so perfect like everyone says at school, so i think it is time to talk about it. Well it started the first day of school. I never would talk because i had a stroke when I was about 2 or 3. I had to held back but i never understood why, until this day I still get made fun of because of the way a dress or how my hair looks. In 5th grade i gained a lot of weight, so I got made fun of for that, it continued from there. The weight stayed with me until the middle of summer after 6th grade. I was running more and I eat more good food. In 7th grade i still got bullied for the music I listened to. Half way through 7th grade I started harming my self and i shut people out. I still get bullied for my scars for who I hang out with. Not only do I get bullied at school but I get bullied online. But I have learned that no matter what they say if I love me for me then it does not matter what they say. One more thing until this day I still ask myself what I can do to make them like me and if it my fault my dad left and is doing the things he is, because of me. Well that is my story thank you for listening.

On the Subject of Teachers & Bullying

In 7th grade, I moved to a new school. I was made fun of and sexually harassed very frequently. I had no friends at all and no one would help. I’m a very independent and stubborn person, but the harassment got so bad I actually did go to a teacher for help. She called me a liar and said, “No student here would ever do that!” I went to another teacher for help. She told me that it was because they were jealous of me, but she didn’t do anything to stop it, even when she’d witness the harassment. I eventually went to the counselor, but she told me I was a liar. Nothing else. My grades were awful. Teachers started calling me in to discuss how to make it better, or rather, that’s what they told me they’d be doing. Most of them just called me lazy, when they had witnessed me being bullied and harassed, but one teacher asked me if I was mentally challenged. I told her I didn’t think so, and she told me I should find out. Eventually, I left that school. I didn’t even stay half a semester. I don’t know what I could’ve done at that point, but I know from experience that sometimes teachers and counselors can’t help you.

My story

Do you know how hard it is to be fat in school? Well let me tell you it isn’t easy. I was a freak to people… No body understood me I just wanted proper friendships with people! I’m 16 now and in my last year of this school! I still don’t feel I fit with my friendship group! I just don’t feel understood or accepted for not liking football and liking musical theatre and being straight! People just dont understand! It isn’t easy being a straight guy in love with musicals! People just didnt understand ! Let me tell you something: don’t let bullies put you down for filling there ‘gay boy’ criteria . Just do what you want to do . Be different! If we were all the same the world would be boring! Now go out there and change the world!

I was bullied

It was the first year I was going to a real school and I was in 6th grade. I had become best friends with this girl (who is still my best friend and I love her dearly) and my best friends other friend didn’t like that so she started to tell me how my outfit was ugly how crappy my hair was or how I wasn’t good enough and I should just stop. I honestly didn’t know I was doing anything wrong. One week my best friend left for vacation and the day after on her email account I got a email saying how I should go die and how no one wanted me. I was pretty upset my best friend would say that, I texted her and asked if I did anything wrong. She told me she didn’t know what happened and how she had no internet. We both right away guessed who it was. The day after I got another mean email saying I should die, I told my best friend and she told her mom. Her mom talked to my mom about it. I didn’t know so one day my mom asked me what has happening and I told her everything and I was in full out tears. My mom got so over protective and she talked to the bullies parents and to the school. It’s now 7th grade and she’s gone and I’m happy and I still have my best friend by my side.

All I can say is if your being bullied don’t say mean things back don’t hide it go tell someone and in the end you won’t be as hurt and you won’t do something stupid to yourself. Remember bullies only bully because they are jealous of you or insecure.